Author Archives: Scott Savage

About Scott Savage

I am a lifelong student of work, organizations and people. I combine knowledge, training and experience in these areas to coach others in search of change, satisfaction, understanding and joy. I help people make the most of their situation, and prepare and find new situations. M.A. University of Minnesota, Education, Training and Development In Business and Industry B.A. Southern Illinois University, Psychology

Why express personal gender pronouns in an email signature?

 

Why express personal gender pronouns in an email signature?

The world changes.  The ways we learned long ago may become obsolete. Yet new ways can be odd, foreign and difficult to comprehend.  One positive change has been the onward march towards greater rights for more people.  It was over 100 years from our nation’s founding until women gained the right to vote in 1920. Another 45 years passed before the Voting Rights Act of 1965 protected the rights of minorities to vote.  Since the year 2000 public opinion about people’s right to diverse sexual orientations has become increasingly accepting.  Laws ensuring the rights of laborers, people with disabilities and others have been enacted to further human rights.

These positive changes come with much struggle and the support of fellow citizens, especially people from groups that already enjoy the privileges sought by the marginalized persons.

When I was growing up many decades ago I had never heard of a transgender person or knew such a thing was possible.  Fortunately,  I’ve been educated by friends, co-workers and others.  Today, I am friends and relatives with people who are transgender.

It takes an adjustment, and open mind and heart to accept changes to our worldview.  And it is worth it for all of us.  Some of the forward-thinking organizations with which I work encourage this practice of stating one’s pronouns. To show solidarity with our LGBTQ brothers and sisters, I have chosen to demonstrate my Personal Gender Pronouns in my email signature.  He/his/him. Perhaps you would like to do the same.

Why is it important to respect people’s pronouns?

Excerpted from University of Wisconsin – Milwaukee website

It is a privilege to not have to worry about which pronoun someone is going to use for you based on how they perceive your gender. If you have this privilege, yet fail to respect someone else’s gender identity, it is not only disrespectful and hurtful, but also oppressive.

You can’t always know what someone’s Personal Gender Pronouns (PGP) is by looking at them. Asking and correctly using someone’s personal pronoun is one of the most basic ways to show your respect for their gender identity.

When someone is referred to with the wrong pronoun, it can make them feel disrespected, invalidated, dismissed, alienated, or dysphoric (or, often, all the above.)

 

Chronic Pain and Illness as a Wisdom Journey

Do you long for a group where you can be seen and known, where you will be inspired to ask yourself new questions and discern new pathways on your journey with chronic pain or illness? If so, this Wisdom Journey retreat may be an answer to your longing.

I have worked with both of these group leaders, Barbara Hummel and Rebecca Zambrano. They are excellent and provide a rich and supportive experience for personal growth.  If you know someone who has chronic pain or illness, I encourage you to share this information with them.  It may make all the difference.

Chronic Pain and Illness as a Wisdom Journey

Trump, Clinton, Humans, Personality and Bias

Politics is always about power, this year is no exception.

Politicians seek it, citizens are affected by it.  And, we develop strong opinions and biases about the candidates.  We hate them, we love them.  Or, in the absence of hate or love, many choose among the least of evils, or the worst thing in my opinion; withdraw or make a protest vote.  In any case, we become unable to see the good in the one we hate and unable to see the bad in the one we love.

There has been much name-calling and mudslinging (e.g. crooked, narcissist) in this fascinating presidential race (there always is). The American Psychiatric Association has explicitly asked its members (Psychiatrists) not to diagnose the candidates without a proper professional process.  But many factors influence our behavior, including our inborn personality, physical and psychological wellness and illness, the context we are in, the persona we put forth, and the skills and knowledge we have developed in our lives.

In his timely essay, personality expert Ross Reinhold objectively reveals the normal psychological roots he has inferred about these two presidential candidates, Clinton and Trump.   I’ve worked with this personality model a long time, i value it and I espouse it.  It helps us to understand and appreciate other’s perspectives, values and priorities.  I respect Ross’s credentials and skills here.  He has the theory and analysis right.

But, as I read his thoughtful analysis, I realized that I did not want to normalize the candidates and view them objectively.  I’ve already chosen and did not want to see the good in the bad, nor the bad in the good.

My mind was made up; not open to further input.  This makes me normal, maybe just like you.  Read this and see if you can see the good in the bad, and the bad in the good.

http://www.personalitypathways.com/article/trump-clinton-mbti-type.html

 

My Friend Died Today

 

My friend died today.

A year ago we agreed to get together to plan our retirements.

How we would enjoy our golden years.

My friend died today.

He never retired.

 

He was a busy man.

Helped a lot of people; supported and comforted them.

He was a very smart man, an educated man.

A family man, a community man.

And a thoughtful man, and a private man, in a sea of people.

 

We did not spend a lot of time together.

He was not my boss, nor my customer, nor my coworker, nor my pastor, nor my student, nor my teacher.

We were friends.

He was a year older than I.

His life is done.

I live another day.

 

We got together a few times.

We enjoyed rich conversations together about life and love, fathers and sons, learning and work and play, and death.

We listened and we understood.

 

They say he had been ill, I did not know.

I wondered when we would have coffee again.

Suddenly,  death took him away.

I should have spent more time with him when he lived,

I should be more like him,

I should do the right thing more often.

Self-recrimination.

 

But no, he would say not that, but rather,

We do what we can in our brief moments of living.

 

You lived,

You loved,

You worked,

You served.

You are a light in my life.

Rest in Peace friend.

Is Emotional Intelligence Real?

Is gravity a real thing? Are wireless signals real? Most would say yes, though you cannot see them, you can see the effects from them. The same is true of Emotional Intelligence; you cannot see it, but you can see what happens with more and less of it. How persuasive you are, the quality of your relationships, and even the success of your work all depend on EQ.

Research has shown than in most jobs EQ is a better predictor of success than is IQ. These include any job which require working with other people. In fact, it is the best predictor of success.

It has been highly studied in leadership and correlates highly with successful people in business and the military. Attorneys, information technology professionals, teachers, and anyone who works as part of a team need EQ skills. Of course EQ is also important to the success of relationships in our personal lives.

There are many facets of EQ. Some EQ models have as many as 54 competencies which can be measured. A person might be skillful in one such as “Independence” might be low in another like “Impulse Control”. A person might have many EQ skills.

An interesting difference between EQ and IQ is that IQ is fixed at an early age, but EQ skills can be learned throughout a person’s lifespan.

Vision and Mission

What is the focus of Scott Savage Consulting?

My Vision
A society where business, other organizations and the human beings who work in them achieve their parallel goals. A world in which joy is maximized and suffering is reduced by enhancing ourselves, our work and our workplaces. I help create this by supporting the growth of leaders, individuals, teams and organizations.

My Mission

  1. To enhance organizations’ (business, nonprofit, government, education) productivity, profit or  surplus, and individuals’ fulfillment and satisfaction through education, development, vision and conscious choice.
  2. To support individuals, teams, leaders and organizations to be clear about their choices, to increase the range of those choices, and to stand up for them with accountability.
  3. To utilize principles of change and growth in support of performance, learning and satisfaction in the workplace.
  4. To help organizations maximize their impacts, implement their values and differentiate themselves from others.
  5. To help individuals take the driver’s seat in their work and their lives.

About People
Most people want to do good. We want to use our talents in service of something. And we are imperfect, though we may wish to be perfect. We each have talents, and we lack in other areas. We may speak loudly, but listen poorly. Or, we may listen well but share little. We may have undiscovered talents, and may not appreciate those we have.

Life and work are best when we find a place in a system which fits us.  There can be a symbiotic relationship between the person and the system;  each contributes to the others’ success.